GB Writes

al-Muqaddimah/Prelude

Allah states:

“Those whom believe pay attention: Upon you are yourselves.”

“Verily, Allah doesn’t change what’s within any People unless/until they change what’s within themselves.”

(Noble-Qur’ān: Chpt.5, V.105; Chpt.13, V.11)

One Particular-Thing I’ve directly noticed, via my Entire-Life: the World is full of Miserable-Mothafuckas. As a Sighār/Youngster, growin-up, I fortunately was never a Bitter-Person (in spite of being challenged by Lots of Sucka-Shit). I never allowed the Character or Behavior of Others determine me having a Shitty-Outlook on Life. Also, all my Life: it only took 1-Experience with 1-Person to have me determine that I’m not tolerating this Type/Kind of Bullshit from People ever again.

As I’ve always told People:

There’s Certain-Things you should only tolerate People doing to you once.

The Usūl/Origins of at-Tahzīn/Misery

There’s 2-Usūl of at-Tahzīn which I’ll choose to focus on. As Humans, we’ve all got a Bad-Habit of imposing Unrealistic-Expectations upon Others. Ironically, this segways into the Other-Asl/Origin of at-Tahzīn. The Other-Asl: as Humans, we’ve a Bad-Habit of expecting Others to make us “happy”.

The Reality of as-Sa`ādah/Happiness

as-Sa`ādah is a Personal-Qiwāmah/Responsibility. It’s not anyone’s Qiwāmah to grant anyone else as-Sa`ādah. Rather, it’s everyone’s Qiwāmah to not impose at-Tahzīn upon anyone else. More often than not, the Sabab/Reason how&why so many Persons expect Others to make them “happy”: this is a Sifah/Manifestation of at-Tahjīr/Escapism. They’re litetally trying to escape from their own Misery, by trying to make Others “responsible” for their own Happiness.

The Asbāb/Reasons at-Tahjīr never works

Forcing anyone to be “responsible” for your “Happiness”: it gives you the Pseudo-Justification to not change/improve your own Disposition.

Forcing anyone to be “responsible” for your “Happiness”: it emboldens them to have Influence/Power over you they don’t even know they have and most importantly don’t even deserve.

Forcing anyone to be “responsible” for your “Happiness”: it will frustrate them, as well as embolden them with the Pseudo-Justification to treat you like Shit.

Miserable-Ass-People attract Shitty-People

Miserable-Ass-People are addicted to Shitty-People, for Lots-Of-Reasons. These-Reasons, I’m sure, every Human-Being has personally witnessed/observed before:

1. They use Shitty-People as excuses to not change/improve, because they rationalize that “At least I’m not worse than them.”.

2. They use Shitty-People as Doormats, to look-down upon them, to over-compensate for how Fucked-Up they actually are.

3. They use Shitty-People as Targets, to impose their Unresolved-Trauma against.

4. They use their Past/Current-Experiences with Shitty-People, as Pseudo-Justifications to pontificate that (if Men) that there’s no Good-Women and (if Women) that there’s no Good-Men.

Let’s be truthful/honest about Blame/Fault

As Humans: we despise being Blameworthy or Faultworthy regarding anything, especially if/when we’ve actually ourselves committed Foul-Shit. Now, particularly, as per a Sexual-Relationship: that’s even more of a Reality because Sex will always make any Human-Relationship complicated. That being the Case: if/when any Sexual-Relationship goes awry, no Human wants to holistically admit to Fuckin-Up. There’s just so/too many Men&Women in our World, whom attempt to play the “Woe-Is-Me” and the “Damsel-In-Distress” Cards. As per Relationship Fuck-Ups, Most-People are never “Victims”, rather most of us are Casualties of our own Stupidity. Men pursue Women. Women choose Men. We’re literally the “Red-Flags” within Others which we readily ignore.

Let’s actually define “Blame”

It’s establishing that one is the Human-Reason how/why Negativity took place.

Let’s actually define “Fault”

Albeit one may not be the Human-Reason for Negativity occurring, they still made 0-Attempt to prevent the Negativity.

All Human-Relationship Meltdowns are predicated upon either Partner/Ex-Partner being:

90% or 10% Blameworthy/Faultworthy

80% or 20% Blameworthy/Faultworthy

70% or 30% Blameworthy/Faultworthy

60% or 40% Blameworthy/Faultworthy

50/50% Blameworthy/Faultworthy

Miserable-Ass-People are Losers

Miserable-Ass-People would rather quit living, as opposed to them gettin they Shit together. They’d rather impose Responsibilities upon Others, which ironically belong to them individually/exclusively. Instead of committing to the Necessary-Labor that is at-Tahsīn/Self-Improvement, they’d rather remain in a Comfortable-Rut of at-Tahzīn. The Hypocritical-Irony is that at-Tahsīn leads to as-Sa`ādah.

Conclusions

As I’ve verbalized to Countless-Persons who’ve outright complained about how “hard” Life is:

Life’s supposed to be hard, because ad-Dunyā/the Mundane is temporary.

We’re never going to get everything we want, desire, deserve, etc. and that’s exclusively how Allah to divinely map Things out.

Misery is in fact a Mu`āqirah/Addiction. And, it must/should be treated as a Mu`āqirah.

Why understanding Addiction should always matter

No…as per healing from the Addiction of Misery is a Life-Long Journey. The Challenge is whether or not one has the Basālah/Courage, to dare tread upon the Tarīq/Path of ar-Ruqyah/Healing. Each of us, as Human-Individuals, must decide this exclusively by/for ourselves.

I tell People All-The-Time:

There’s no such Thing as an “Easy-Decision”, but only Necessary-Decisions. If it were “Easy”, then it’d just be a Choice.

Courage isn’t the “Absence-Of-Fear”. Courage is the Willingness&Ability to confront Fear.

So…are you going to be happy or miserable?!!!

Gareth Bryant