Allah states: “Wretched-Women are for Wretched-Men & Wretched-Men are for Wretched-Women. Likewise, Integral-Women are for Integral-Men & Integral-Men are for Integral-Women: they’re Good-Doers in spite of whatever Others state/claim about them. Forgiveness & Noble-Provision await them.”…
…Muhammad (Peace be upon them) stated: “Always speak Truth, even if it’s bitter (even if it rubs People the Wrong-Way).”.
(Noble-Qur’ān: Chpt.24, V.26; ibn-Hibbān; al-Bayhaqī)
This-Article is based on Other-Things I’ve written, regarding Relationship-Disasters:
https://gbwrites.com/2022/12/30/damselindistressmythos/
https://gbwrites.com/2023/02/05/deflectionblamefault/
https://gbwrites.com/2023/07/03/therelationshipcrybaby/
https://gbwrites.com/2022/09/08/cancelcultureisevil/
The Fitrah/Nature of Talāq/Divorce-Culture
at-Talāq, very sadly, is becoming a Popular-Subject/Topic amongst Muslims. And, it’s almost exclusively because so many Muslims have become Serial-Divorcees. I, as a Chaplain (Counselor/Therapist) literally address Marital-Issues amongst Muslims & Non-Muslims on a Daily. Pertaining to Muslims specifically, I can authoritatively say that there’s 3-Reasons how&why so/too many Muslim-Marriages fail:
1. The Biggest-Blunder All-Humans make, as per any of our Human-Relationships, is that we audaciously/arrogantly “expect” Others to make us “happy”. Happiness is a Personal-Responsibility. No one can make us “happy”. But, anyone can make us miserable
2. Most-Muslims refuse to recognize/accept the Reality, that there’s a Difference between an Islāmic-Marriage & Halāl-Fuckin.
3. Most-Muslims refuse to recognize/accept the Reality, that there’s a Difference between an Islāmic-Spouse & a Halāl Sex-Partner.
Because of the Lack of Recognition/Acceptance of what I’ve aforementioned: Certain-Muslims continue to pursue, choose, Negative/Toxic-Relationships. Then, they still audaciously/arrogantly complain about the Negative-Results of their Negative-Choices…just as Albert Einstein said: “Insanity is continuously doing the Same-Thing, expecting Different-Results.”.
This Following-Video chronicles a Hadīth/Story which hit the Muslimsphere pretty shockingly. It’s about a Typical/Classic-Scenario of a Messy-Talāq. The Subject of the Scenario is known as Dunia Shuaib. They rose to Prominance, as a Muslim-Female regarded as a Person-Of-Knowledge within Certain-Circles of the Muslimsphere. The Person via the Video is known as Salman Ateequi: they didn’t even have the Basālah/Courage to disclose their Actual-Name. Ironically, they’ve a Website&YouTube-Page titled “Behind Veils” & yet they’ve veiled their own Nominal-Identity. Nevertheless, they accused Dunia Shuaib of committing al-Buhtān/al-Humazah (Slander/Defamation against them, as well as basically issuing a Contract on their Life. They also mentioned Lawsuit-Litigations between themselves & Dunia Shuaib.
www.salmanateequi.com
www.behindveils.com
The Video itself details how/why the Tumultuous-Marriage between Salman Ateequi & Dunia Shuaib evolved into what it became. There’s Several-Things I took issue with, regarding the Video itself.
My Commentary of the “Behind Veils” Video-Series by Salman Ateequi
1. The Relationship-Origins between Salman Ateequi & Dunia Shuaib
The Person via the Video details how they got involved with Dunia Shuaib. Via their own Admission, they stated their “Relationship” was a “Secret”, for 4-Years prior to their Marriage. The Question is how/why. Salman Ateequi pontificated/claimed that this was done to avoid al-Ghībah/Gossip (via an-Namīmah [Backbiting] and/or [Slander]). However, something very specific caught my Attention via the Video. Salman Ateequi mentioned that their “Niyyah/Motive” was to please Allah. If that were truly the Case, then how/why did their 4-Year “Relationship” last longer than their Marriage?!!!
2. The Marriage vs. the Sneaky-Link
The two of them even being together for 4-Years (not 4-Days, not 4-Weeks, not 4-Months, etc.) prior to their Marriage raises every Red-Flag humanly imaginable. It’s seemingly obvious that there’s so much more to this, than Salman Ateequi chose to speak about. I mean, who entertains an In-Person Relationship with someone for 4-Years prior to there Marriage?!!! Now, clearly, I’ve 0 Islāmic-Proof that they were committing az-Zinā/THOTery for 4-Years prior to their Marriage. Yet, at the Same-Time, it’s rather obvious that Salman Ateequi alludes to that being the Case exactly.
3. A Cursed-Relationship
Salman Ateequi is extremely delusional, as per them seemingly not realizing how/why Shit went wrong between themselves & Dunia Shuaib. Well…assuming that they told the Truth regarding the Origins of their Pre-Marital Relationship: what did they actually expect to occur?!!! So, if Persons are Sneaky-Linking…literally “Playing-House” (as “Salman admitted to nearly Word4Word): what Islāmic-Entitlement/Justification should anyone think/feel they’ve got, to dare “expect” Allah to “favor” what they’ve got going-on?!!! Salman Ateequi via This-Video: they literally deflected/gaslit their own Personal-Responsibility/Accountability, as per the 4-Years of az-Zinā which they themselves admitted to. Make that Goofy-Shit make Sense.
4. Biased-Judgment AKA Judgmentalism
I’ve 0-Respect for Salman Ateequi portraying themselves as a “Victim” of Dunia Shuaib. “Salman” is literally no different from/better than anyone whom complains about a Relationship-Gone-Bad. The Video itself screams of the “Toxicity/Narcissism” Kalām/Rhetoric anyone who’s suffering from Sympathy-Addiction uses, in order to give themselves a “Pass” for the Sucka-Shit they’ve done via their Relationships. It’s like I always tell People: You either judge everyone or no one…you either give everyone or no one a Pass.
5. Blaming/Faulting everyone except themselves
Most-People whom throw-around the Term “Narcissism/Narcissist” are addicted to Fake-Wokeness. And, 9/10, they’re just as apathetic as those whom they call “Narcissists”. Most-Persons whom pontificate/claim that Others are “Toxic”, “Narcissistic”, etc. are literally the proverbial “Pot calling the Kettle Black.”. It’s solely beecause Most-Persons ignore the Red-Flags which exists within themselves. So, of course, Most-People want to wave the “Damsel-In-Distress/Woe-Is-Me” Card.
6. They got exactly what/who they deserved
They did it to themselves…they were addicted to Pseudo-Piety/Fake-Righteousness. And, subsequently they got caught-up with someone whom was just as fraudulent/fake as they were. They themselves are a Piece-O-Shit & thereby subsequently attracted a Person who’s a Piece-O-Shit as well. The allowed themselves to get addicted to Illusion. They ignored all the Red-Flags, because, the same Red-Flags which exists within Dunia Shuaib: Salman Ateequi knew of within themselves. They refused to correct the Red-Flags within themselves & that’s precisely how/why Allah tested them with a Person just like them as per Character/Behavior. As per Salman Ateequi: they’re not a “Victim”. Rather, they’re a Casualty of their Stupidity via THOTery.
https://gbwrites.com/2023/08/13/sadisticsexuality/
https://gbwrites.com/2020/11/19/sexcrimes/
Amthāl/Lessons to be learned from Ahādīth/Scenarios presented via the Video
1. Regarding any Scenario involving Human-Conflicts, there’s always 3-Sides to any Hadīth/Story:
Side-A
Side-B
What really happened
Only Allah, then those directly involved in the Scenario, know what really happened. Most-Humans don’t have enough Integrity, to tell what really happened. Most-People (regardless of whether we’re Right or Wrong) will only tell their Side of the Story, as opposed to what really happened. There’s a Difference between being a Liar & being a Dishonest-Person. There’s a Difference being Right & being Correct.
2. We all must divorce ourselves (absolutely No-Pun-Intended) from allowing ourselves to succum to Pseudo-Piety/Fake-Righteousness Addiction:
People are very good at at-Tadjīl/Deceit, but horrible at Authenticity. We have to stop pretending that we exists without Flaws, Faults, Sins, etc. As per Marital-Relationships (as is the Subject of This-Article anyway): Muslims do a lot of Sucka-Shit via pretending to be “Religious” for example. Personally, anyone (especially any Muslim) whom even dares to refer to themselves as “Religious”: Red-Flag. I truly despise the Usage of the Term, because, it negatively emboldens Arrogance…much like if/when People refer to themselves as “Humble”. The Next-Time anyone even says about thevermselves: “I’m humble.”…seriously observe them. People literally sound arrogant saying: I’m humble.”.
3. There’s a Severe/Desperate-Need for Counseling/Therapy
Marriage, Divorce, Marriage, Divorce, Marriage, Divorce. The Madkhali Cycle!
There’s so/too many of us whom’re Delusional-Mothafuckas out here, who really think/feel our Shit don’t stink. We really adopt this Twisted-Mindset/Mentality, that everyone’s got Problems, everyone’s the Villain, etc. except ourselves. The Need for Counseling/Therapy is a Farīdhah for Muslim-Communities. But, it’s got viewed with the Seriousness it actually deserves. And, because of this: there’s going to be Persons whom continuously suffer as per Lack of Wellness-Resources. (Ironically) if Wellness-Resources were taken more seriously via Muslim-Communities, then it’d equip Muslims to improve ourselves. If Counseling/Therapy were promoted more amongst Muslims: there’d be More Healed-People whom wouldn’t subject Others to be on the Receiving-Ends of our Fitn/Traumatic-Experiences, resulting from Unresolved-Issues/Problems within ourselves.
Final Cease and Desist Notice from The Hypocritical-Mothafucka Salman Ateequi
A Text-Message Salman Ateequi personally sent to Gareth Bryant:
“This message serves as a formal and final notice that I do not consent to any form of contact from you. Effective immediately, you are instructed to cease and desist from all communication with me in any form—this includes but is not limited to text messages, phone calls, emails, social media interactions, or third-party contact.
Your repeated and unsolicited communications constitute harassment and are unlawful under applicable laws governing stalking, harassment, and digital abuse. If you contact me again in any form, I will pursue legal action and provide this message as evidence of your deliberate disregard of a direct and final notice.
This is your only warning. Any further contact will be documented and forwarded to law enforcement, and I will not hesitate to seek a restraining order, file a police report, and initiate a civil lawsuit if necessary.
Do not contact me again!”
Gareth Bryant’s Response via Typical Gareth Bryant Fashion:
“This Hoe-Ass-Nigga Salman Ateequi had the Audacity/Arrogance, to accuse Gareth Bryant of anything: Salman Ateequi literally doesn’t even care how Pathologically-Hypocritical they actually are. This is literally the Same Bozo whom put their own Ex-Wife (Dunia Shuaib) on Front-St., attempting to make them look like a “Villain” and themselves look like a “Victim”. Ironically, Salman Ateequi is nothing more than a Casualty of their own Jahālah/Stupidity. No one forced Salman Ateequi to be in a Harām-Relationship with their Ex-Wife fir 4-Years prior to their Marriage and no one forced Salman Ateequi to publicly admit to this. Salman Ateequi voluntarily chose to publicly admit to their 4-Year Harām-Relationship with Dunia Shuaib. Salman Ateequi literally has 0 Islāmic-Entitlement to Bitch&Moan about Others criticizing them for Things which they’ve voluntarily chosen to self-expose publicly.”
So, it’s ridiculously obvious that Salman Ateequi is not only a Liar, Slanderer, etc. but equally their a Hypocritical-Coward. They literally want a “Pity-Party”, as a Way/Method to deflect/gaslight their own Responsibility/Accountability. When Persons like them fie upon adh-Dhalālah/Misguidance, I don’t even feel bad.
Gareth Bryant
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