The Following-Video actually explains a lot, regarding the Triggers/Demons which Jason Lee struggles/lives with. Their Life-Experience, detailed via This-Video, completely validates what I conclude via my Professional-Work via Chaplaincy: 98% of Persons whom I’ve ever counseled, pertaining to Sexual-Identity Crisis, Homosexuality, etc. were Victims/Casualties of Sexual-Abuse (at least once during their Lifetimes).
https://fb.watch/lhO-i73k1_/?mibextid=Nif5oz
Via my Profession as a Chaplain (Counselor/Therapist): I have the Good-Fortune of getting connected with People whom’re willing&able to make a Difference in the Lives of Others. However, this also involves digging very deeply into Subjects which’re extremely uncomfortable for the Average-Person to delve into Full-Throttle. al-Ightisāb/Sexual-Abuse is obviously one of those Issues. This-Issue is particularly complex/complicated when Religio-Demographics/Communities are plagued with the Challenge of confronting it and/or the Fear of confronting it.
For more Info. regarding the Islāmic-Position regarding Sexual-Abuse, Sex-Crimes, etc:
https://gbwrites.com/2020/11/19/sexcrimes/
https://gbwrites.com/2013/02/04/rapeisacrimenomatterwhodoesit/
I’ve been very vocal, in terms of my Advocacy of Sexual-Abuse Awareness/Prevention. Also, I’ve constantly/consistently been working with Individuals, Entities, Organizations, etc. as per spreading Awareness/Education about how to educate Others to confront/combat Sexual-Abuse. While doing one of my Presentations, I was faced with Lots of Audience-Questions after my Presentation which I wasn’t able to answer immediately. But, when I was sent these Questions thereafter, I didn’t hesitate to respond to them.
The Questions&Answers:
1. How can I become more aware (are there trainings or classes) as to what Sexual-Abuse is and how can I help prevent it? There’s Seminars, Lectures, Classes, etc. especially Online-Resources, regarding Sexual-Abuse Education.
2. I’ve always understood Sexual-Abuse to be a Crime-Of-Power/Control. Can you explain in more detail your Statement of it being one of Hatred? Yes…as per the Nature of Sexual-Abuse itself, only someone whom hates a Fellow-Human would sexually abuse them. There’s nothing pleasant or loving, regarding Sexual-Abuse: it’s exclusively predicated upon Malice.
3. How can I begin putting Supporting-Initiatives in my Place-Of-Worship for Sexual-Abuse Survivors? Good-Question…Answer: publicize that you self-identify the Issue & will not be silent about it, because like I always tell People: Silence is Compliance. Begin with those whom you know and/or are close to, whom’re either Sexual-Abuse Survivors themselves or are connected to/with Sexual-Abuse Survivors. And, then formulate Support-Groups: schedule these Support-Groups at your respective Places-Of-Worship, as a Warning against Sexual-Abusers/Predators whom use Places of Worship to seek-out their Sexual-Victims/Prey.
4. How can I help those in Leadership-Positions, those in Authority, etc. understand the Need for Support-Initiatives in our various Places-Of-Worship? You can help by taking the Lead, as per formulating Support-Groups, Neighborhood-Watch Groups, Sexual-Abuse Hotlines, becoming Community-Board Members, etc.
5. Now that the Alarm has been sounded, and the Conversation started, what are the next steps? Good-Question…Answer: do whatever’s in one’s Individual-Capacity, to get involved in spreading Sexual-Abuse Awareness/Education.
6. Because I was Sexually-Abused, does that mean I could become a Sexual-Abuser? Also, Men whom’re Sexual-Abuse Suvivors: are they just as ashamed and repulsed as Women whom’re Sexual-Abuse Survivors? 1st-Question: Not necessarily/exclusively, but it can most definitely occur & it has occured and it still occurs. Any Manifestation of Abuse is a Cycle…for Some/Many-People, they’re unwilling to have an Abuse-Cycle end with them. And, as a Result of that, they end-up becoming an Abuser themselves to impose the Same-Trauma upon Others which was imposed upon themselves. I’ve personally counseled Sexual-Predators whom themselves were sexually-abused themselves. 2nd-Question: There’s Some/Many-Men whom experience the Same-Types/Kinds of Trauma which any Woman may experience via Sexual-Abuse. Or, literally, because of the Fragility of the Human-Male Ego: they may experience a Deeper-Severity of Trauma.
7. Sexual-Abusers seldom get Prison-Time. Can you speak a little more on why? No…it’s not that Sexual-Abusers seldomly get arrested, prosecuted, convicted, Prison-Time, etc. However, what’s a Statistical-Fact is that (via the United States especially) the Average Child-Molester, Rapist, etc. barely gets Death-Penalty Sentencing or Sentencing which is more than a Decade. Ironically, via the US, the Average Sexual-Abuser is always a: Non-Muslim, Euro-Male, Ages 20-60. Also, there’s so many Sexual-Abusers whom never get reported to Law-Enforcement.
8. Sexual-Abuse and Pornography. If I enjoy Porn, how likely is it that I will sexually abuse someone? Good-Question…Answer: that exclusively depends upon the Spiritual-Principle/Integrity of any/every Individual, as well as depending upon the Psycho-Emotional Constitution of any/every Individual. Pornography, for the Record, isn’t positive anyway: for Obvious-Reasons. Pornography inherently formulates in the Minds/Hearts of People that their Exclusive Human-Value is relugated to them being Sexual-Objects. And, once People get to That-Space/Place, their Sexual-Targets will potential hone in on anyone. The Porn-Industry literally caters to any/every Sexual-Fetish ever known to Man…this is Fact, not Fiction. There’s literally Porn-Sites, Porn-Categories, etc. which exclusively/categorically pontificate&promote Sexual-Abuse.
9. What’s the Connection between Sexual-Abuse & Suicide? Good-Question…Answer: the Correlation/Connection between Suicide & Sexual-Abuse pertains to Self-Resentment, Self-Shame, Self-Blame/Fault, etc. More often than not: Sexual-Abuse Survivors allow themselves to think/feel that they’re the Reason how/why they were sexually-abused. Also, they’re fearful of getting penalized, ostracized, etc. for being vocal regarding Sexual-Abuse. These are Realities: there’s Certain-Places in the World, where if anyone is vocal pertaining to being sexually-abused they could be murdered…their Loved-Ones could face the Same-Fate…they could be forced to marry their Sexual-Abuser…they could be forced to move to Another-Place…they could be forced into Prostitution…etc.
10. I was assaulted as a child. Where do I go from here? Firstly, let me say that I regret that your were sexually-abused. Secondly, you individually never deserved to be sexually-abused, regardless of whatever you did, presented yourself, behaved, etc. Thirdly, you’re not alone…Persons like myself are in fact here to empathize & support you: we’re here to listen to you & to not be judgmental towards/against you. Now, as per where do you go from here…that’s a Good-Question. It seems clear that you desire to arrive at a Space/Place of Healing.
These-Types/Kinds of Questions are never easy to answer. And, sometimes, it may seem as thoygh there’s no such Thing as the Right/Best-Answer. It’s a Constant-Challenge, pertaining to This-Issue. And the Fact that it’s so prevalent via our Modern-Society is very telling, as per how much Work must be done to confront Sexual-Abuse.
Gareth Bryant
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